I know two sisters who grew up in the same house, had the same parents and were brought up the same. Their dad said the same things to them and disciplined them the same way.
One thanked her dad daily, seeing him as a great role model.
The other swore that she’d never treat her own kids the same way.
Why does this happen?
Recently, there has been a lot of discussion on the different management styles (supportive, micromanaging approach vs a more hands-off approach), and how it’s important to recognize how different employees react differently to these approaches.
Why do different people react differently to the same stimuli? The truth is, we all show (and expect) appreciation/love in different ways, whether you are a working adult or a growing child.
Here’s a little liberating truth: Just because someone does not IMMEDIATELY give you appreciation in the way you wanted, DOES NOT MEAN THEY DON’T CARE.
When you feel unappreciated, you don’t lose anything if you give the other person the benefit of the doubt. There’s no loss in assuming the other person is trying their best.
Whether it’s your boss, your spouse, or your kids. You’ll be much happier. You put the FOCUS back on you.
You don’t lose anything, because, in the end, you can always walk away, as long as you know your self-worth.
If you can do good things, not for the sake of the rewards, but for the action’s intrinsic goodness; if you can be proud of your work and be patient for the rewards; you’ll see huge changes in your life.